Since the last time I posted I have lost a very good friend and neighbour, It wasn’t an easy funeral to go to but Im so happy that it was so packed there. He was really loved in this village.. Its still a bit raw but I will post about him when im feeling more with it and ready and have more time to devote to him.
We had a staycation this year. Instead of spending money we dont have on going away for a week or so and having nothing but a few photo’s to show we decided to crack on with the decorating and get things done how we wanted them instead of the cheap option if that makes sense. The flooring is all done in the front room. and its lovely. i love the dark wood but at over £30 a pack it costs fortunes to do the whole hallway and front room..
In fact the front room is done now apart from the putting away of all the decorating equipment on my shelves where the printer and scanner are going to go in my work corner (god I cant wait for the pc to be up and running again) oh and he needs to do the edges of my workstation it was made out of some black marble counter top but the edges still need finishing off. oh and the door frame still needs glossing. but hey the radiator is back on the wall now so thats a bonus. i had visions of freezing in the winter because it was going to be one of the jobs that he never got round to.
Alex and Ali watched a program on the tv about 5 weeks ago about castles and ruins and have had a fascination about them ever since so that solved the problem of where to take them on days out. They are not lovers of rides so the amusement parks were out. and to be honest both of them are to small for most of the rides anyway.
So I joined English Heritage and we have been to all the local castles in the Kent and Sussex area’s Dover castle being the favourite so far. we went there three times. So I have had my moneys worth out of the English heritage membership fee with just that one castle as it would of cost nearly £40 for us all to go once. and the membership was only £89 we did the great tower on one trip alone with the military museum and the perimeter and other bits on another trip and the secret war tunnels on another trip. It was too much all on one day so we divided it up and went once a week.. and no doubt will be going back again.. maybe in the spring. we have been to many other castles and ruins as well.
yesterday we went to upnor castle. which IMO was a little disappointing. its advertised as being a place you can get married in or have naming ceremonies but in actual fact there is no way i would want to get married there. (not that i want to get married) as the function room is right at the top of the spiral staircase.. as with most castles.. nice and steep and there is no way i can see any bride being able to navigate the staircase in a long dress and trail. but the kids loved it. which is the main point. Ali is not keen on all the spiral staircases on any of the castles but Alex loves them as they lead him to the top of the towers … ok going down them he is not keen them but you have to do one to do the other.
It’s August bank holiday weekend this weekend and we are having a BBQ with some friends over tomorrow. so i hope it doesn’t rain. So far I cant complain about the summer at all.. its been lovely apart from the lack of rain for the garden so having to water like mad to keep the veg and fruit and flowers alive.
not looking forward to Monday though as it would have been Michael’s 25th Birthday. Yes I still think of him everyday and another advantage of not being with the ex is i can at least grieve in the open if that makes sense as Allan knows about him where as my ex didn’t
Another Milestone over the summer was getting Ali out of nappies yes day and night.. it took 3 days to get him dry at night and we have never had an accident. poor kid he was probably ready to come out of them ages ago. Im a lazy mummy when it comes to potty training so leave it until they can understand when they need to go. I cant be doing with running around with little ones with a potty. It happened because they were playing in the garden in the paddling pool with nothing on and ali ran in and used the big toilet.. tiddled and ran out again… hmmm i thought so never put a nappy on him the rest of the day.. and yes he used the loo everytime he needed to go.. no prompting at all. that evening he went for a tiddle before bedtime. I put a nappy on him and we had a protest anyway in the morning he woke up came straight downstairs ripped the dry nappy off and pee’d for England .. this went on for three nights.. and then i decided sod it wont bother with a nappy.. and yes he has been dry day and night ever since.. no accidents one kid in pants… and no asking do you need a wee all the time. he just asks even when we are out… this is the easiest kid ever out of all my kids and they have all been really good. again because I guess I have always left it until they were about three…
well i will blog again with more details about bits and pieces in this post no doubt when Alex is back at school and life has returned to some sort of normality
If life in this household ever did have normality in the first place.