True Colours…. What a shock and eye opener…..

Ok I admit I have always prided myself on being a Bitch to a certain extent.. but I found out a couple of days ago just what a true bitch is and Im sad to say I dont even come close…..

I’m actually shocked because the person concerned “sx” portrays herself as a god loving.. caring person.. and I always believed them to be as such..

I have now found out they are the most vindictive , manipulative , nasty person going..   If I hadn’t seen the events unfold I wouldn’t of believed it myself.

I don’t want to name names here although it wouldn’t matter as no one reads this but as I need to get things out of my head sometimes and put them down I feel I need to write down now my shock and dismay..

Ok to explain a little easier.. years ago we all used a forum for mums over 35plus… there was a huge bust up because apparently someone had written a very nasty pm to someone else.. and it was publish on the forum.  for those who read it .. it seemed them most nasty vindictive thing written..   the post was deleted by the forum admin and there was a lot of unrest and arguing..  In the end a lot of us left because we felt that there was a certain amount of bitchiness going on in the background. and hey we all have stress in real life we didn’t need it in our virtual life as well.  We used fb but because of the messaging rules at the time we got warned that our accounts would be closed if we didnt stop.. so we created a place where we could chat without the fb restrictions… sadly someone found out about our private place and the forum Admin  “L” decided to ban us all from the forum for having our private chat area..   fair enough… no great loss as like I said we didn’t like going there because of the bad atmosphere anyway.   We used the forum i created as asked for a while but then fb relaxed its messaging restrictions so slowly without any planning we started messaging again.. between about 6 or 7 of us..using a joint pm or open chat..

Again no names. but out little chat was great some of us confided a few things very personal and certainly not something we wanted others to know about..   eventually the yummy mummy group was created and most of the ladies from the old forum post there as well.   great we could all chat and play nicely again… but we still had our private little chat where we could discuss things that we didn’t want the others to know about…  Anyway one person  I shall just call her “SX” decided that they would like to include two other ladies to our private chat.. we all said that as lovely as they were and they are.. we preferred to keep it private because of the sensitivity of things we had discussed.. not for others ears or eyes..  now SX has always made herself out to be a very caring person as I said before.. kept on asking why they couldn’t join in.. despite being told especially by another troubled lady that she had written and said stuff that was for our eyes only and that we were the only people she could talk to about this.. and was finding the whole thing quite upsetting because of the pressure sx kept putting on, using a nicy nicy but manipulative way .. I could see this happening and said that the majority of us didnt want anyone new no matter how nice they were, and that we were fed up treading on eggshells incase we upset her or her religious beliefs. (she had become a very devout catholic despite her rather dubious lifestyle before finding god) anyway instead of just accepting the fact that we were happy to be as we were.. she decided to block me and the other troubled  lady (ok I can understand that.. i upset her by saying that the majority of us wanted to stay as we were and that we were fed up treading on eggshells trying not to upset her..)  now the funny thing is someone who wasnt even in our chat group guessed from a sin picture i posted on facebook that it was SX i was having a dig at blocking me, and then privately mailed me

“”” ahhhhhhh well I knew SX long before everyone else from a site for mothers over 40.(not 35)…and she got the forum shut down because of her vindictiveness…………but I failed to mention it when all the hooha went on the 35 site before because I knew no one would believe me! xx “””  I was actually shocked to hear this as this was going back long before i even joined the 35plus forum.  Anyway back to where I was.

As I was saying, not only did SX block us she also blocked everyone but one person  . even those who hadn’t even said anything … .. fine.. no great loss to me… although the others found it a bit upsetting that this so called lady of god.. had been childish enough to block everyone because she couldn’t have her own way..  and they couldn’t understand why she had blocked them on fb.. so one lovely lady emailed her and asked why she was blocked …  her SX’s reply to her was shocking..    Im not going to say what was in that email but I have never heard of such a vindictive nasty email in my life……..   This from a person who was one down from being nun like.. the person who was so nicy nicy caring..   I cant believe she could be so nasty..  Myself and the others are in total shock.  the thing is.. its all falling into place now… we were told she was nasty on 35 plus but didn’t believe it..  how could we.. she always seemed so nice………  we should of got an idea when she kept changing her fb id and opening up new accounts..  because apparently people being nasty to her… family falling out with her…  we have now been reminded of the amount of times she has taken a sabbatical because she has upset someone and had to either hide away or deactivate her fb account..   yes she has certainly shown her true colours..

Those that know me know that usually I don’t care what i put as a status.. and if I think someone is pulling a fast one or talking bollocks I will say so to their face.. Im not one to hide away..  Yes I name and shame but this time… I cant be bothered.. you see there are so many people who are sucked into this woman’s pretty nicy world.. that im afraid if I do say something they are going to see the evil side of her as well, and to be honest.. I don’t want to see them hurt and I don’t want to rock the boat.. its taken years for everyone to play nicely again in the new yummy mummy group.  ironically SX remove herself from the group not long after it first started because she thought that certain ladies who had problems with their kids or cheating husbands were too bitchy… bitchy about tv programs and bitchy about other people on their friends list ..   Irony eh..  and here we are she turned into the biggest bitch going….   makes me look like an angel…  All I can say is I do hope that no one is sucked into her world because while its water off a ducks back to me I have broad shoulders and don’t care what im called..  Ido worry that some who are close to the edge already could easily be pushed over it..   

I have met many people in my life and yes some are internet friends but I can honestly say I have never “met or heard of” anyone so evil and vindictive in my life! 😦

Sids Day at the school

Ali  had a pet day today and on pet day all the kids can take their pet in for the other kids to see..

Well we took sid the snake in, the kids loved him and Ali was proud as punch as we showed off Sid the corn snake to everyone., We even printed off some colouring pages for the kids to do.

anyway one thing that surprised me is .. we had to take Sid in first thing in the morning so we waited for them to take the register so they call all the kids names out and they answer good morning.

then after that they call the lunch menu.. and the children have to reply if they are having school dinner or packed lunch in French…

I was dead impressed as Ali pipped up that he was on packed lunches I mean 

Picnic s’il vous plaît

while the other kids replied souper s’il vous plaît if they were on school dinners 

not once has he ever mentioned that they do this every morning lol

I feel like the wicked stepmother Again…

Scenario…    Daughter (my Step daughter) is walking out of class in the middle of a lesson, being abusive to a teacher and getting into trouble at school constantly.. not working and homework is a right mess when she does it..  she gets bad report.

Allan being the father and I think he is a good one tells her off.. he does not go mad or anything but decided that we would not take her to Drayton Manor with us like we had planned and we would not be taking her out for any treats until she started working harder and behaving so we cancelled any plans we had to go out which I though was a bit hard on the boys as they were missing out because of her behaviour .  At the time she was staying with us 4 days a week,  She then started coming to us every other weekend just Friday until Sunday.. At christmas she made an excuse after a couple of days and left making up some rubbish about staying over at a friends..  We do not hear from her at all, not even a text… When its Allan’s birthday I send her a message via facebook reminding her .. She sends a text to Allan saying “Happy Birthday” this was March 9th… Since then nothing.. not a text or anything… Until today…  I was up the school waiting for Ali to come out when I get a facebook message notification come through to tell me someone has sent me a fb message. It was Tamara saying “An can I have my Money to go to Canterbury with my Friends” ok she hasn’t even spelt my name right.. but hey the girl is 14  but what pisses me off is ok the money she has is £35 left of her birthday money but she had presents as well and we did say she wasn’t to take the money home as we know she would waste it on sweets as she did last time. It was so If we went anywhere and she wanted to buy herself something she could when she was out with us..

Now at the moment Im cooling down.. as I am Furious…

1. She hasn’t even text’d her dad about this…

2. We haven’t seen or heard from her since last year…. ie before new years. Actually to be exact the 29th December. We know from contact we have had with her school her work is still atrocious and they are still having behaviour problems with her.

3. We have told her in the past she is not having her money to take home it is for when she is out with us.. she had all her presents, jewellery and everything to take home.

4. not even a please or thank you in her text.

5. we were only discussing her the other day and saying that no doubt we would hear from her when she wants anything…

6. Not even a what are you up to or how is her brothers.. or her dad..

Im so tempted to wait now until tomorrow morning and say..

Sorry only just seen your message on facebook.. (I don’t go on it every day)  Nice to hear from you.. we were only saying the other day we hadn’t heard from or see you since you until the 29th of December….

we are all well Thanks for asking.. oh sorry you didn’t but as I said I am well and so is your brothers and your dad … remember them???? 

And in answer to your question.. No… we have told you before the money you have here is for when we go out together as a family and not for you to waste on sweets etc or take home..  Your dad specifically said you could take your presents home but your money stayed here.

Maybe I should just wait and cool down.. like I said I’m obviously going to be the wicked step mother  the annoying thing is her sister pops over with her friend quite often and has said the reason Tammy hasnt been is because she has to go to school and do her homework over again if its not done properly. where her mum lets her have days off and doesn’t make her do it at all …

ARRRGGHHHHHHH Bloody teenage Girls……..