Back to school and we have our lodger back :)

Well, the boys went back to school last Tuesday,  as a treat, we took them both to see Fast and furious 8 on bank holiday Monday. I have to admit it was a great film and I even managed to stay awake through the whole thing. afterwards, it was back home for burgers as finances didn’t stretch to a takeaway but hey hoo it is payday soon 🙂 
Both boys were happy to go back to school and catch up with friends, and probably to get away from sorting bedrooms out as I have been on a spring clean mission lately,
Wednesday Alex had a friendly football match with his team at 6 pm and they won 10-2 so he was happy as the other team were a year older. 

We are just about in the normal school routine now, and while all the other mums rejoice about their kids going back to school, I love having the boys at home.  roll on May day bank holiday when they have a nice long weekend. 

My brother is off to the south of France tomorrow so we got our lodger back, we babysit his budgie while he is away,  Bertie is lovely though but very old, so rather than have him and keep taking him back and forth while they go to their boat and then come back for the odd week here and there, we have his stay with us until they are back for the winter. so he will be here with us until at least October.  in fact, when you work it out, Bertie spends most of the year with us lol so we have “Shut up Steve” upstairs in Ali’s room  *Ali’s budgie* and Bertie downstairs, both tweeting to each other. 
I have to admit I have missed having Bertie over the winter, so it’s nice to have him back with us.  I just hope he doesn’t pop his clogs of old age while we have him here 🙄 

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Saying goodbye to watching class plays forever. Thank f**k

Today I saw my last ever class play, Ali is yr 6 now and once they go up to senior school they don’t do the class play.
Ali hate’s them with a passion, they are not for him and,to be honest, they have made his life miserable in weeks leading up to them, this one being no different.  if you have read my pink/purple blog you will see that I won the battle. and Ali is dressed in blue.   He never said a word, and with the exception of this picture which I took at the end, he wouldn’t even look forward.  even here he wasn’t happy with having to turn around as there was still a lot of mum’s in the hall.  people, Ali doesn’t do people!

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From these picture’s you can see that while other kids may love the opportunity to take part in play’s and enjoy doing them.  Ali doesn’t.  

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refused to look as he does his part and  holds a banner. he is supposed to be facing front.

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Walks off after a few parents laugh because he won’t look forward after prompting from his teacher. 

Now some may say that he should have to take part in these things, but if they knew the meltdown’s we have about it, if they knew how upset this makes him, how unsettled, then maybe they would understand.  
I have never missed any of his class plays or Christmas plays. In fact, I have never missed any of the kid’s school productions. This was the first one ever that his dad missed due to work.  we have always gone and watched both boys, but I have to say.  I am so glad this is the last school class play I will ever have to go and watch.   Now we just count down to the Christmas play,  hopefully, now his teacher will understand the anguish Ali goes through and will think twice about what part he is put in.  
This evening he had a smile on his face for the first time since they started practicing the play because he knew it was over.  

Ali’s parent evening

I had the pleasure of meeting Ali’s new teacher properly today for the first time,  the discussion started off with the pink/purple assembly clothes Ali was supposed to take in for his Assembly on Wednesday, long story short, he will now not be “Fear” he will be “Sadness” and will be wearing blue,  I will find out on Wednesday morning if Ali can be convinced into taking part. 

 He mentioned that Ali’s handwriting was still very big,  although when he has a scribe helping he get’s through work very quickly, he questioned Ali’s need for a scribe and said he thought that if he did more writing himself maybe it would become smaller and easier to read.
He mentioned that Ali refuses to take part in class discussions, or really interact with the other children in his class,   he also mentioned Ali seems to daydream and not look at him or really the other kids and often stares away at the wall, however obviously listen’s as when asked a question on whatever was being discussed, when being told off for not paying attention, he apparently does listen and answers correctly.  it was at this point, I said to his teacher.. “you do know Ali is legally blind and on the spectrum don’t you ?” when asked to explain, I told him Ali is blind in one eye and classified as legally blind in the other, although with glasses, he can manage with his right eye, but being left handed, as well as blind in his left eye, writing is a struggle for him, he is also autistic, ah right he said, that would explain a lot…….. WTF?? how did you not know,  every teacher he has ever had at the school knew about his need’s his quirks, 
Apparently, he *the teacher* doesn’t like to read note’s about the kids when they are new to his class because he doesn’t want to pre-judge them, and that they start off with a clean slate.  great if you have a kid who is a little shit in the previous year as it gives them a chance to start anew but in Ali’s case, this is medical and would explain the need for his scribe, and other needs. 

Hopefully, now he understands, there will be less of *excellent work Ali but took too long to write down*, and *must pay more attention in class and join in discussions*. written all over his books,   he also now understands why Ali reads digital books when print can be made larger and did say his reading was excellent, way beyond his years, 
Although despite everything he admits. Ali is top of the class in every subject with the exception of pe where he struggles, especially his co-ordination. however, he now understands why. 

All I can say is, as always I am proud of Ali and how well he has done despite such a lack of understanding from his teacher.

PINK/PURPLE *The joys of being a parent of an autistic child*

Ali (10) came home with a note from school about clothes needed to be taken in for a class assembly ,  he was not a happy bunny and is refusing point blank to dress up, he hates dressing up, in the past it has been a nightmare, and for the last couple of years we haven’t had to worry about it as he has always been a narrator on the school plays which meant he could just wear his uniform.  
for years he insisted on wearing the same clothes as his brother when not at school and it’s only over the last year or two that I have been able to dress them in different clothes, even now he hates new clothes and usually Alex has to wear something first before Ali will wear it.  

When Ali is at school he is usually in his element, everyone dresses the same, it’s a routine he thrives on.. until it comes to Christmas plays and class assemblies. he hates them with a passion, they can usually convince him to take part but only if he doesn’t have to dress up.  

So back to this note:
 

Now it would be hard enough for me to convince Ali to dress up at all, but to have purple/pink clothes.  Seriously?? The kid may be only 10 but takes men’s 2XL is 5 ft 11 with size 11 feet, pink/Purple is really not his colour!

There is no way I am going to go out and buy this kid anything in pink or purple,  His sister’s clothes wouldn’t fit him as they are both smaller than him even though they are now both 20 and over.. *Happy 20th Birthday to my step-daughter today* 
I am not a pink person myself so that is out of the question, but I do have a purple T-shirt that has a skull on it, so worst case scenario I’m guessing that will have to do along with his black jogging bottoms.
Well I will send the clothes in but I will let Mr Denney deal with the massive meltdown that is inevitable when it comes to convincing Ali to wear it lol

What is it with school’s and their demands for clothes for plays etc.
over the year’s I have had to provide pirate clothes,  roman gladiator , harry potter, knight, Arab and other outfits,  everything green for green day …  oh and brown..  
thanks to ebay, the pirate, harry potter, knight and gladiator costume’s and others, were found, bought, worn for about an hour and now  all sit in a box on top of the wardrobe in my room,  never to be worn again, well they wouldn’t be by the boys as they are too small now.  but in total, I would say there is about £100 worth of dress up outfits there. 

As for the green day, well Primark ended up being the destination to get a green T-shirt and jogging bottoms, again to be worn for one day and never again because I don’t for some reason dress my kids in green. 

Brown! Now that was a nightmare to find..  again it was eBay and brown t-shirt, does anyone dress their kids in brown???

All I can say is good luck Mr Denney, both this time and at Christmas if you are brave enough to insist Ali dresses up again and roll on next September when Ali starts senior school as we will no longer have this dress up crap ever again. 

When your child starts school for the first time.

Dear Teacher

I know you’re rather busy
First day back, there’s just no time
A whole new class of little ones
And this one here is mine

I’m sure you have things covered
And have done this lots before
But my boy is very little
He hasn’t long turned four

In his uniform this morning
He looked so tall and steady
But now beside your great big school
I’m not quite sure he’s ready

Do you help them eat their lunch?
Are you quick to soothe their fears?
And if he falls and hurts his knee
Will someone dry his tears?

And what if no-one plays with him?
What if someone’s mean?
What if two kids have a fight
And he’s caught in between?

You’re right, I have to leave now
It’s time for him to go
I’m sure he’ll learn so much from you
Things that I don’t know

Yes, I’m sure they settle quickly
That he’s fine now without me
I know he has to go to school
It’s just so fast, you see

It seems like just a blink ago
I first held him in my arms
It’s been my job to love, to teach
To keep him safe from harm

So, when I wave goodbye in a moment
And he turns to walk inside
Forgive me if I crumple
Into tears of loss and pride

I know as I give him one more kiss
And watch him walk away,
That he’ll never again be wholly mine
As he was before today.

The teacher response

Dear Parent,

I understand that you are scared
to wave your child goodbye
and leave him in a teacher’s hands
don’t worry if you cry!

I’m used to weeping parents
It’s hard to leave I know.
But it’s time to share him (just a bit)
To help him learn and grow.

Let me reassure you
That I’ll give your child my best
I’ll wipe his tears, soothe his fears
And change his dirty vest!

If your darling child is full of cold
I’ll blow their nose all day
Just like you, I’ll care for them
In a special way.

I’ll treat him like I would my own
I’ll catch him from a fall and
If there is ANY problem
I’ll be sure to tell you all.

It’s true he’ll grow to love us
They’ll talk of school a lot
It doesn’t mean they hate you
And that you should lose the plot!

I’ll tell you a secret..
That when your child is here
They talk to me as much of you
Of this please have no fear.

You’ll always be their mother
Whilst teachers come and go
To them you are their number one
This I truly know.

Soon you’ll see some changes
In your little girl or boy
They’ll become more independent
And to see this, it’s a joy!

I’ll teach them all I have to give
To share, climb and to write
But to you they safely will return
To tuck them in at night.

With love from a teacher…

Something has gone right for a change.

One of the things I forgot to mention on catch up was the fact that we hadn’t got our choice for Alex’s senior school. In fact, we hadn’t got 2nd or 3rd choice either. I had immediately put in an appeal and put his name on the waiting list for the school we wanted which apart from being a good school with a grammar stream is also the closest to our house and to the boys primary school. The school he had been allocated was nearly 4 miles safe walk away from us. This meant we would not physically be able to get both boys to school on time without one waiting around for an hour and the same for after school. Thankfully we spoke to the boys head and Alex’s teacher and both were more than happy to give us a letter to support our appeal. Well, I got the phone call about an hour ago telling me that the school we wanted were happy to offer Alex a place in September and we had won our appeal without the need for a formal interview. Relieved doesn’t begin to explain how I feel.  Hopefully, things are starting to look up for us now.

Alex on Soundcloud…Do something straight away

 

 

 

A few weeks ago Alex came home with a letter asking permission for him to take part in an Anti bullying project..
I of course agreed and signed..

Well on the 23rd of May  this went live 🙂

Alex also sings/raps on his own in it

So here is The Songwriting Charity
Do Something Straight Away – Grove Park Primary School

End of Proud mummy moment 🙂