Hustle and Bustle of the Beach (yeah another rant)

There’s truly nothing like a day at the beach. Sun, balmy ocean breeze, clean seawater, good food, and good company, fresh air for the kids, Life is good. That is until those without good beach etiquette arrive and feel the need to squat right on top of you.
What is it about people who feel the need to sit so close you can feel the heat radiate off their skin? There’s tons of space, we can be the only two families on the beach, but you want to snuggle with me?

Move the fuck over!
We always get to the beach hours before anyone we leave early in the day to avoid the traffic if its a fair distance away,  so once we are there we can enjoy the peace and quiet that the beach and sea can offer. I love watching the sun over the water, it glistens so pretty.

You can hear the gulls as they chatter among themselves. Peaceful. Relaxing. We avoid the places where you get the holiday crowds.. we love living ten, fifteen mins drive from the closest beach Leysdown on Sea …be it if we want a beach just to sit on or  if we want the hustle and bustle with amusements. No matter where we go,  that is where the hoards come, I love living in the South of England as we have every type of beach going from shells, stones, or pure sand and even dunes, all within an hour or two’s drive from us… be it staying in Kent or going to East Sussex to Camber.
Anyway back to the hoards, when they arrive. All one million rude beach goers that want to sit right on top of me. Seriously I know the beaches have been busy but why when there is loads of space do they have to put their towel right down next to our blanket.
They move in with all their unnecessary beach stuff. None of them know how to put up and umbrella so it stays put. None of them understand that sand should stay on the beach and not flying randomly about as they shake out their towels or run by you at 60mph.


I gave up smoking so my son didn’t have to breath in cigarette smoke which of course makes his asthma worse… and here I have some rude person sitting and smoking right in our faces yes thats another thing that pisses me off… And then they bury their dog ends in the sand..

None of them understand that we don’t throw the trash around us we get up and put it in the bins provided and if there are none handy.. here is a novel idea we take it home and dispose of it there..
And finally while we are outside, we really do not have to shout at each other. Quiet indoor voices work well.

Now my favourite times to go to the beach is before and after the school summer holidays but we have been known to go during as well but now all the kids are back at school the weather is usually still great.. So that’s where We intend to go on our next sunny day out…….. To the beach  Hopefully the weather will be nice this weekend.

I understand that not everyone is as lucky as we are to have a choice of beaches to go to and that some may only see them on a weeks holiday once a year but please… have thought for those around you…


Christmas is over – Let normality return to the household once again!!

Well as Normal as this house ever gets!!

Don’t get me wrong I have loved Christmas this year, Every Second of it but now I just want things to get back to normal.

I have already made a start on taking the decorations down by moving some of the furniture so really all that is left is the ceiling decorations and the tree and window lights.

and If I have my way they will be down by the end of the day 🙄

I just want to declutter now, what looked festive a few weeks ago now looks cluttered!!

The plan was that Both Allan and I would go back on our low-fat diet for the new year but looking at the masses of food and goodies in the house there is no point in even attempting to!

So we have revised our plan…Like when we gave up smoking  And succeeded at , we will start when the time is right instead of making it a new years resolution that will probably be broken.

So the plan is eat drink and be merry, finish off all the goodies and then start the diets , the exercise and the general health eating!!

Well Officially the decorations were all down… and put upstairs ready to go up in the attic by 2pm today…

Not a decoration or hint of Christmas can be seen !!
Not even a twinkle of glitter from a card!!
Anyone for a cream egg?!??

Wish us luck!!

I did it… I really did it……..

It’s one year today since both Allan and I gave up smoking.. and I mean gave up smoking.. everything 🙄

And there are some who never would believe that yes I mean Allan gave up everything..

I Cant believe it really… 40 a day plus to nothing in fact if I’m honest I smoked more than that…..

I do feel better, Next step is to lose the weight we both gained but thats a small price to pay..

And Yes  I know that I will never smoke again..

Even walking somewhere where people have been smoking it stinks..

I have given up smoking in the past but always craved a fag and never felt sick from the smell..

For some reason this time is different. even the smell makes me feel ill and I’m loving not having yellow nicotine stains all over the house and of

course all that extra money came in handy.

Mind you We wouldn’t be able to afford to smoke now , Funny how the extra cash every week got used up with one thing or another and now its just eating by the weekly budget!!

And yes I am actually proud of myself 🙂

The only personal growth I’ve had in 2010 was around my waistline. :-(

The Diet Officially Starts In January…

It may not be the 1st but will be in January…

I’m one of those people who don’t really do new years resolutions as such well lets say keep to them.

So Like last year with the quitting smoking which both Allan and I did on March 4th or was it the 9th… I cant remember now!!

*how strange*

I’m saying I am going to go on a diet and lose weight.. I will start when the day suits me!!

but I will start and I will succeed.. I’m getting bored with my fat clothes now!


I need to vent… I need to shout… I need to scream!! I need to remember and respect!

Those people who know me well know that I don’t suffer fools gladly and that I also have a very short temper at times.  I call a spade a spade and yet I will do anything I can to help anyone who needs help.

Today I picked up my step daughter from school for the weekend… We got home and I noticed that her shoes were falling apart… Now I had said to her a couple of weeks ago had they got her new uniform etc and I was told that she had some new shirts and that they were going to get her jumper when the weather gets colder..  no new blazer etc  I asked about shoes and was told as she had new ones in July she didnt need any… fair enough I remember she did have some new ones only a few weeks before the end of term.

Yes she got her new shirts… YESTERDAY which means that she went to school for 3 or 4 days in old and very stained shirts…  I noticed her shoes and they are fucked.  Im sorry but who In their right mind sends a child back to school on their first day.. in the September term in shoes like this? :(

Before the Summer Holidays I had, had to sew up the entire lining of her Blazer as it was all ripped and every seam was undone. I had used every stain remover known to man to remove stains that were all over it from leaked pens etc. thankfully it was black so not to noticeable. however it was snagged in places.  defiantly  in need of replacement how ever the shop in Faversham where you get the school clothes were out of stock of shirts jumpers. (yes her jumper was not only to small but also snagged) and Blazers and I was told they didnt stock the pe kits and that you had to get them from the school.   great i thought her stuff that was getting to small and falling to bits would have to last till the end of  July when she broke up…. no they have sent her again this term.. wow two new school shirts at the grand old cost of £8 each..    If I had known I would of put some cash aside the last couple of weeks and kitted her out myself.  As it goes tomorrow We are going up the town first thing to get new shoes…. I had already bought her a new jumper a few weeks back   and next week hopefully will be able to afford a new blazer and the week after I will go up the school to get her some new pe trousers as hers which were ripped at the bottom last July have now been cut to get the ripped bits off shame they are now about 4 or 5 inches to small.

I know its not cheap kitting kids out for school but I have always got my kids complete new uniforms.  usually 2 jumpers, 2 trousers/skirts/ at least half a dozen shirts if they were in high school or a dozen polo shirts if in the primary school each… not to mention new PE kits.. trainers, plimsolls and of course bags and shoes.  and coats… I have just bought the boys new coats and their old ones still fitted them, to be honest i could of got away without buying them one this year but i like them to go in new. their old ones can be used for playing in the garden with or snow if we gets some :)

At one point years ago I had 3 kids in high school and two in primary school all needing new uniforms and yes I had to budget and get a little at a time but i got it all before they went back in September.

I do understand that money is tight but come on you know that uniform is needed so what would it hurt getting bits a little at a time.. and if they couldn’t afford it why not ask can we get something or help towards it.  Allan has got off  lightly over the years he doesn’t mind paying towards things the girls need if they would tell us. Saying that the only reason we can afford to get her shoes now and other bits is we gave up smoking.. yes the pair of them still smoke despite her having asthma according to her doctor anyway..

Anyway like I said… first thing in the morning its up the town to get some new shoes…

Tomorrow or should I say today as we are now 9/11 is the anniversary of the terrible acts of terrorism on the world trade centre and aircraft’s in the USA…

Lest we never forget!

A little info for those who may not know fact’s and figures.

Casualties of the September 11 attacks

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Casualties of the September 11 attacks included a total of 2,977 fatalities[1] (excluding the 19 terrorist hijackers): 246 on the four planes (from which there were no survivors), 2,606 in New York City in the towers and on the ground [2], and 125 at the Pentagon.[3] All of the fatalities in the attacks were civilians except for 55 military personnel killed at the Pentagon.[4] More than 90 countries lost citizens in the attacks on the World Trade Center.[5] In 2007, the New York City medical examiner’s office added Felicia Dunn-Jones to the official death toll from the September 11 attacks. Dunn-Jones died five months after 9/11 from a lung condition which was linked to exposure to dust during the collapse of the World Trade Center.[6]




At the time of the incident, media reports suggested that tens of thousands might have been killed in the attacks, as on any given day upwards of 100,000 people could be inside the towers. Estimates of the number of people in the Twin Towers when attacked on 9/11 range between 14,000 and 19,000. NIST estimated that approximately 17,400 civilians were in the World Trade Center complex at the time of the September 11, 2001 attacks.[7] Turnstile counts from the Port Authority indicate that the number of people typically in the Twin Towers by 8:45 a.m. was 14,154.[8]


Only 14 people escaped from the impact zone of the South Tower after it was hit and only four people from the floors above it. They escaped via Stairwell A, the only stairwell which had been left intact after the impact. No one was able to escape from above the impact zone in the North Tower after it was hit, as all stairwells and elevator shafts on those floors were destroyed. After the collapse of the towers, only 23 survivors who were in or below the towers escaped from the debris, including 15 rescue workers. The last survivor was pulled from the rubble 27 hours after the collapse of the towers. A total of 6,294 people were reported to have been treated in area hospitals for injuries related to the 9/11 attacks in New York City.


World Trade Center

An estimated 200 people jumped to their deaths from the burning towers (as depicted in the photograph “The Falling Man“), landing on the streets and rooftops of adjacent buildings hundreds of feet below.[9] To witnesses watching, a few of the people falling from the towers seemed to have tumbled or leapt out of broken windows.[9] Some of the occupants of each tower above its point of impact made their way upward toward the roof in hope of helicopter rescue. There was a plan to use helicopters;[citation needed] however, it wasn’t used due to the intense smoke; the roof access doors were locked, Port Authority officers attempted to unlock the doors; however the system would not let them, and thick smoke and intense heat would have prevented rescue helicopters from landing.[10]

Cantor Fitzgerald L.P., an investment bank on the 101st–105th floors of One World Trade Center, lost 658 employees, considerably more than any other employer. Marsh Inc., located immediately below Cantor Fitzgerald on floors 93–101 (the location of Flight 11‘s impact), lost 295 employees,and 60 consultants. Risk Waters was holding a conference in Windows on the World at the time, with 81 people in attendance.[11][12]

John P. O’Neill was a former assistant director of the FBI who assisted in the capture of Ramzi Yousef and was the head of security at the World Trade Center when he was killed trying to rescue people from the South Tower.[13] An additional 24 people remain listed as missing.[14]

The average age of all the dead in New York City was 40.[15] The dead included 8 children: 5 on American 77 ranging in age from 3 to 11, 3 on United 175 ages 2, 3, and 4.[16] The youngest victim was a 2 year-old child on Flight 175, the oldest an 82 year-old passenger on Flight 11. In the buildings, the youngest victim was 17 and the oldest was 79.[17]


Of the 125 victims in the Pentagon, 70 were civilians and 55 were military personnel.[18] Lieutenant General Timothy Maude was the highest ranking military official killed at the Pentagon.[19]

By the numbers

Fatalities included the following:

  • Everyone aboard the four planes (no one aboard the hijacked aircraft survived)[20] This includes (not counting the hijackers) 79 passengers and 11 crew members aboard American Airlines Flight 11;[21] 51 passengers and 9 crew members aboard United Airlines Flight 175;[22] 53 passengers and 6 crew members aboard American Airlines Flight 77;[23] 33 passengers and 7 crew members aboard United Airlines Flight 93.[24][25]
  • 2,606 in New York City in the towers and on the ground:[2]
    • This includes 343 New York City Fire Department firefighters, including one FDNY Fire Chaplain, Franciscan Fr. Mychal Judge[26], 23 New York City Police Department officers, and 37 Port Authority Police Department officers.[27] Casualties of the 9/11 attacks also included 15 EMTs[28] and 3 Court Officers. Approximately 2,000 first responders were also injured in the attacks.[28]
    • 1,366 people died who were at or above the floors of impact in the North Tower (1 WTC); according to the Commission Report, hundreds were killed instantly by the impact while the rest were trapped and died after the tower collapsed (though a few people were pulled from the rubble, none of them were from above the impact zone).[29]
    • As many as 600 people were killed instantly or trapped at or above the floors of impact in the South Tower (2 WTC). Only about 18 managed to escape in time from above and in the impact zone and out of the South Tower before it collapsed.
    • Of those who worked below the impact zones, only 110 were among those killed in the attacks. The 9/11 Commission notes that this fact strongly indicates that evacuation below the impact zones was a success, allowing most to safely evacuate before the collapse of the World Trade Center.[30]
    • A K9 dog named Sirius.[31]
  • 125 in the Pentagon[3]

Non-American casualties

Aside from the approximately 2,669 United States casualties, 310 foreign nationals (excluding the nineteen perpetrators) also perished in the attacks, i.e. just over 10% of the total number of deaths. The following is a list of their nationalities (not accounting for at least some cases of dual-citizenship). By far the foreign country with the largest loss of life was the United Kingdom, with 67 deaths (including the overseas territory of Bermuda). India had 41, South Korea had 28 and Canada and Japan had 24 each. Colombia had seventeen and Jamaica, Mexico and the Philippines had sixteen each. Australia and Germany had eleven each, while Italy had ten.

Country Total fatalities
Argentina 4 [32]
Australia 11
Bangladesh 6
Belarus 1 [33]
Belgium 1
Brazil 3 [34]
Canada 24 [35][36]
Chile 2
China 4
Côte d’Ivoire 1
Colombia 17
Democratic Republic of the Congo 2
Dominican Republic 1
El Salvador 1
Ecuador 3
France 3
Germany 11
Ghana 2
Guyana 3
Haiti 2
Honduras 1
India 41 [37]
Indonesia 1
Ireland 6 [38]
Israel 5 [39]
Italy 10 [40]
Jamaica 16
Japan 24 [41]
Country Total fatalities
Jordan 2 [42][43][44]
Lebanon 3
Lithuania 1
Malaysia 3
Mexico 16
Moldova 1
Netherlands 1
New Zealand 2
Nigeria 1
Peru 5
Philippines 16
Portugal 5 [45]
Poland 1
Romania 3
Russia 1
South Africa 2
South Korea 28
Spain 1
Sweden 1
Switzerland 2
Republic of China (Taiwan) 1
Ukraine 1
Uzbekistan 1
United Kingdom 66* [46][47]
Bermuda 1
Venezuela 1
* Excluding Bermuda

Forensic identification

Ultimately, 2,752 death certificates were filed relating to the 9/11 attacks [48], as of February 2005. Of these, 1,588 (58%) were forensically identified from recovered physical remains.[49][50] The Associated Press reported that the city has “about 10,000 unidentified bone and tissue fragments that cannot be matched to the list of the dead.”[51] Bone fragments were still being found in 2006 as workers prepared the damaged Deutsche Bank Building for demolition.

And A Year Later….. Me Bad!! Sorry!!

Just a quickie update really.

It’s been a year since I last posted It seems I never have the time

OK to be honest I forgot about it.

So much has gone on in the last 12 months really that its hard to keep it to a minimum but I will go with the basics and if I am good will post more and elaborate more.

Ali was diagnosed with chronic asthma last December and  had a really bad attack which put him in hospital.

both Allan and I decided then we had to give up smoking around him we wanted to give up completely but with Allan’s high cholesterol and the low fat diet he had to go on and yes we were both doing really well, we even lost over a stone between us over Christmas we figured we couldn’t manage to give up just yet. we also decided that we didn’t want to give up on New Years eve as it was too much pressure so we chose another date March 9th as it was Allan’s birthday

we went to the doctors and went on some pills to help us give up.

the idea is that you take them for two weeks and then stop on an agreed give up date.. 9th march

but we only had taken them for a week and both gave up about the 4th of March.

and it wasn’t just the fags we gave up smoking it was everything  and neither of us have smoked since.

I’m so proud of myself.

I’m a confirmed 40 plus a day person for over 30 years and I’VE GIVEN UP SMOKING..

and it was easy. no cravings or bad mood  ,

well Allan got a bit stressy but I don’t think it was the tobacco he missed those first couple of weeks.

The downside is we both gained weight again and yes went off the low fat diet and stopped doing the exercises on the wii but 6 months down the line we got back on it and to my delight i had only gained about 10lb and Allan 6lb so we are back on the healthy eating kick..

(I’m not mentioning the chocolate and pork scratchings we had today)

and i did do a full exercise routine on the wii and found it so much easier. now its just finding time to do it ..

once Ali goes to school full time i have promised myself I will do a full hour a day.

But better to be fat than smoke and now we work on the fat…….

It feels so weird being a none smoker though for a start I cant stand the smell of smoke ha ha dirty disgusting smelly habit.

We have a dog now called Teal’c

a snake.. called sid..

we still have ZZ and of course the fish although we have downsized the fish to one tank of tropical now.

We got Teal’c when he was 12 weeks old from an animal rescue centre called Foal Farm at biggin Hill he was named hino but with the gold markings on his forehead of his brindle brown body he looked just like Teal’c from SG1 (star gate programme )

He cost us £160 but that included all his jabs and the neutering which we had to take him back for when he was 7 months old.

It was not my idea to get a dog.. this was Allan’s Idea. prompted by the fact that the shed was broken into yet again by the local tea leaf.. don’t get me wrong I love dogs but didn’t want another one due to my asthma and Ali’s  but thankfully we have both been OK with him. The dog is stupid though not only was he a bugger to house train. he lets the kids do anything to him and I mean ANYTHING… and comes back for more :) and he is big.. I swear he gets bigger every day.



and I have another grandchild a granddaughter by my oldest son Daniel called Angel.


again it’s another grandchild I  will probably never see :(

that breaks my heart if im honest. I hope that one day they (being my 5 oldest children), will realise  what a liar my ex or should I say my husband is, yes Ive still not managed to get a divorce,.

Allan bucked his ideas up, we had another glitch so to speak but I think he is behaving now.

thankfully I don’t have to see his old bat of a mother now.. well once a year around boxing day,.

we now have his youngest daughter Tammy (Tamara) every weekend, she wants to come and live with us but her mum isn’t to happy about that so we came to a compromise and she stays with us 4 days and goes home for 3 days.

apart from the summer holidays where she came on holiday with us..( yes we actually had a camping holiday even if it was only Hastings and only for 4 days)  and then she went home for two weeks,  I’ve had nothing but

im bored constantly.  I felt so bad in the end on some of the day trips with the boys I have picked her up to come with us for the day

and boy have we done some day trips the boys still love their castles and we have been to Leeds castle practically once a week even if it was just for a picnic and a play.

and I’ve or should I say we as Allan came along on a few occasions have taken them to loads of other places. The one thing Alex has not said once in the holidays is he was bored,

in fact he begged one day to be able to stay at home and play on the pc lol

I have loved having them both at home and would quite happily have had a longer summer holiday.

and im sad that my last baby starts school this year.  he will be doing mornings and his teacher is coming Thursday 9th Sept to the house for a home  visit. OMG I need to tidy up lol

but he starts full-time on the 18th of October…  I wont cry as I know he is more than ready to go to school but I will be upset as its my last ever baby starting school

I will have two school children and not just two little boys.  my babies have grown up to quickly for me.

oh well I had better  go now I will no doubt proof  read this later and find all sorts of mistakes,

until the next time.